It is Friday on Wild Azalea Lane, and I need to cook dinner. I have no excuse on Fridays since I do not work on this day of the week. Thankfully, my friend Rachel started a blog about how to eat gluten free (she was diagnosed with Celiac Disease as a grown up last year). I try, try, try to eat gluten free but beer and bagels are my vices. Fast forward to tonight. I had to cook and check out what our back yard ladies have given us this week.
With all these eggs, I attempted gluten free quiche. Check back later for more on this dish.
While I was cooking, I decided to listen to the most recent podcast from Dads on Doody. One of the dads is a college friend of Rahul’s. For whatever reason (duh, I am not a dude) I love listening to the weekly podcasts.
This week’s episode was not the norm for the podcast. Most are super light and funny, but this week they tackled an important issue: female victims of assault on the Baylor University campus. I learned the HARD way last year about discussing sensitive issues with friends and neighbors, so I am not addressing the Baylor topic. And, if you really think about it, the issue should be addressed WAY before any situation like this arises. The dads even say this early on in the podcast. So, here are my thoughts on this issue as a mom and an educator of young girls.
Humor is often used to mask insults. We talk about this at Friends TALK. Just because you say “just kidding” after saying something mean does not make it ok.
Doing things “like a girl” should be praised, not laughed at. Click here to check out the message I shared with girls in my program last year. This Always campaign #likeagirl is such a great message. I think this message is a good first step in changing perceptions, but we need to do more.
Another topic in the podcast was how males have a tendency to avoid confrontation. I would argue that most individuals try to avoid confrontation, and as females, there are definite negative connotations to being “bossy.” But being a bystander, male or female, when females are marginalized means that you condone the behavior. We talk about this, as well, in my program. What kind of message does that send? Instead, you should be an upstander and stand up for your friend (or girl). This is not an easy stance to take, and I am sure as a male, it will not always be accepted. Which leads me to my last thought.
I think Chris mentions at the end of the podcast that he hopes for an organization to help women, like the ones in the Baylor scandal. But I would argue this type of organization would be too little, too late. We must teach girls and boys at a young age to be true to who they are, stand up for what they believe in, and celebrate what is unique and special about themselves. This type of thinking is incompatible with the types of behaviors that lead to bullying, oppression and rape.
We have a long way to go on this topic, but it makes my heart happy that at least 2 dads are talking about it, doing their “doody” and want to impact change with their own children. So, Chris and Will….keep on doing your doody!